When you’re single you naturally pay more attention to your physique. We spend more time primping ourselves, going to the gym and eating like rabbits in the pursuit of being always “ready” for the prospect of meeting “the one”. Just because these days you’re doing your dating on dating sites, doesn’t mean that sooner or later you’ll have to show that skin in the light of day!
But after you’ve entered into a stable and committed relationship with someone your level of self-care starts to slip a little. Less attention is paid to makeup or the clothing choices, and time spent baking together and lying around watching movies and cuddling begins to usurp what used to be your prime gym time. But is being in a relationship any reason to let your self go? Even if your new partner could care less that you’ve gained 10 lbs. or that you no longer find it necessary to wear makeup during your every meeting or get yourself into your “buffest” conditions as regularly, is that going to keep your self-esteem comfy when you realize suddenly “Oh my gosh, I’ve gotten fat!!” I think that we often forget the reasons why we take care of ourselves in the first place. Sure, trying to attract a suitable mate is one reason that seems to stick to our forethoughts when we’re single, but nobody likes to feel badly about themselves either. Being healthy and in shape (not model thin or body builder buff) feeds into our personal self-esteem and makes us more confident, which shows in many different ways. Try not to forget yourself in a relationship or lose your will for personal upkeep. Try exercising together, for instance. Studies have repeatedly shown that couples who workout together see better individual results than people who work out solo. Take walks instead of watching TV or movies and try having veggie pizza instead of meat lovers. At the end of the day I’m no where near a fitness expert; I myself am much chunkier now than I was years ago when my husband and I started dating. But my fitness has remained important to me no matter how happy I’ve gotten. For me personally, it’s hard to be happy and fat at the same time.
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